Texting your man can put an interesting spin on the seduction game
There are many techniques and tools you can use in the art of flirting. And with texting being such a useful form of communication it seems a shame not to include it in your flirting tool list.
Texting can add a whole new dimension to flirting with your man. It’s personal. It’s private. And best of all you can send and receive it from anywhere.
While I do feel texting is a great way to seduce your man, you do need know when to use it. I don’t feel texting works well for someone you just started dating.
You should know the person and have had time to flirt with them in person and over the phone. By doing this you have an idea of what turns them on and what turns them off. It also helps avoid the dreaded rejection from someone who might not be interested in you.
If you’re a little shy about flirting in person or on the phone with your man, flirting by text can help you overcome that. By having time to decide what you want to say, you can feel comfortable with the message you’re sending. Also, by seeing a positive response to your flirting by text, it may make you feel more comfortable flirting with your man over the phone and in person.
Here are some things that I have found work well when flirting by text message:
Be Subtle and Suggestive. You don’t need to be overtly sexual to be sexy. Sometimes when the message is too suggestive it can be a turn off. Hinting at what will happen can be more seductive than telling. Leave something to his imagination. Let him spend the day thinking about what’s waiting for him when he sees you. The words should have an element of seduction and be clear to him.
Watch what you say. If you’re not comfortable texting, save those conversations for the phone or face to face flirting. Both of you should feel comfortable with what you’re sending in the text. You don’t want a flirty text to become a source of problems in your relationship. So make sure both of you feel comfortable with the heat level of your texts.
Be creative. Since it is a text you have time to think about what you send and how you respond. You can make your texts into a story which will lead up to the time you’re together. Building the seduction up throughout the day.
As you become more creative and more comfortable with flirting and with what he likes, you can clearly express what you want while leaving enough to his imagination to have him waiting impatiently for the chance to see you.
Have fun with it. Remember this is a flirting tool. So make it an extension of how you already flirt with your man. You’ll feel comfortable and he won’t feel as though you’re doing something that’s doesn’t fit who you are, which is the person he’s attracted to. And who knows maybe he’ll start flirting back or sending you his own flirty messages.
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