You’ve been dating for 2 months and he’s asked you to meet his friends and family. You have reached level two of the relationship where you start meeting each other’s friends, relatives and other significant people in each other’s lives.
This is a crucial junction which can make or break the next several months and can spell disaster for a long-term marriage type relationship. Men are just as interested in their friend’s opinions of who they are dating as women are. Men are not independent little souls who are adrift on a sea of despair until they meet their significant other.
Quite the contrary, usually. Often men have friends they do ‘sports’ things with, ‘family’ type things and just ‘hanging out’ type activities. These are the people that need to sign off on his relationship with you. As a relationship matures and moves forward you’ll do it around his friends and relatives. If the atmosphere is tense and problematic it’s likely he’ll choose them over you.
Most men don’t have a problem with conflict at work, but conflict in their personal relationships is another story.
To get rid of the conflict and strain they will get rid of the thing that is causing it. And, unfortunately, you will be out numbered – lots of friends and family against little ole you.
This is the time to lift your head, be yourself, enjoy his friends and realize that any disagreements you have with them (serious ones) are bound to trickle in to your own relationship.
It is important to be yourself because you can’t fake a personality for years to come. And, if the relationship with your guy has potential, then you may be looking at a commitment to these people for years to come. However, it isn’t necessary to pick a fight or engage in disagreements.
Evaluate his friends and family and ask yourself if they could become your own friends and family. The reality is that if your relationship blossoms and you move in together or he slips a ring on your finger, those friends and family of his will quickly become yours!